Why Won’t He Ask Me Out?

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It’s so frustrating when you know he likes you and you’re asking yourself “Why won’t he ask me out?” Men have told us what the number one thing is that keeps them from asking you out, even when they like you.  It’s really more about how different men and women are than that he doesn’t like you.  Is the number one reason men told us that they are not asking out a woman that they like the reason your guy is not asking you out?  Let’s find out!   

Why Won’t He Ask Me Out?  It’s just as frustrating for the men.

It is painful when you know a guy likes you and won’t ask you out.  It can feel like there is never going to be another guy for you.  It might feel like it’s just you, but this is a question that we get asked by women of all ages.

Here is some of what we’re hearing from you:

  • He keeps texting you, but won’t ask you out.
  • He keeps asking you to hang out, but what does that really mean?
  • He calls you to talk, but does not ask you out.
  • He is only asking you to hang out in groups.
  • You like him and want him to pursue you.

Men and women are different and it can lead to a lot of misunderstandings and lost opportunities.  Not understanding these differences is not your fault.  After all, did anyone pull you aside and explain the differences between men and women and how the differences may sabotage your love life?  For most of us, the answer to that question is an overwhelming no!

Let’s step back and look at what’s going on for men so that you can understand what they need from you.

What is going on for a man who likes you but just won’t ask you out?

We talked to many men of all ages to get this answer for you.

First, let’s clarify something important about men that they secretly want you to understand. They are hard wired to win.  In fact, some men will not even go after something where they are not sure that they have a high likelihood of success.

We think of men as tough and not very emotional, but they get their hearts broken too.  Being rejected by a woman that they really like is a failure that many men just don’t want to face. When presented with unsure odds if you’re really interested in him romantically, even when he really likes you, doing nothing is the safer choice.

Why Won’t He Ask Me Out?  Number One Reason

The number one answer to your question “I know he likes me…so why won’t he ask me out?” is that he is not getting clear signals that you are open to his taking your relationship from friends or acquaintances to something more.

Men don’t want to be rejected.

If you want a man to ask you out, send clear signals that he won’t be rejected.

The problem is that our idea of clear signals and his idea of clear signals can be very different.

Do you think you’ve been sending clear signals and he’s still not asking you out?

Remember, it’s not your fault that men and women are so different.  It isn’t always obvious to you what he needs to make the move and ask you out!

What Inspires a Man to Want to Ask You Out?

A lot of women ask us what inspires a man to want to ask her out. It turns out that there is a specific type of attraction that inspires men to want to ask a woman out. It’s different than what most women think. The good news is that once you know what it is, it’s something any woman can turn on. We put together a short video presentation explaining what this is and give you the secret of how you can turn it on to become more attractive to men you like in a way that inspires them to want to ask you out. Click here to watch this free presentation -The Type of Attraction that Inspires a Man to Want to Ask You Out. Don’t worry we aren’t going to tell you to get a new wardrobe or get a personal trainer at the gym…it’s much easier than that!

Was this article helpful to you?  Help a girlfriend out and share this with her.  Do us a favor and only share this with women who will treat men with respect.  We’d rather not have this in the hands of women who think using men is ok.

Share your story with us about the guy who won’t ask you out by leaving us a comment below.


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6 Responses to Why Won’t He Ask Me Out?

  1. Mark says:

    I agree with everything that was expressed in this article however, I do believe that women know when a man is interested. Men won’t gaze at a woman hes not interested in. We do a lot of gazing. If you are already hanging out together then the one through five steps in this article are the best ways to let us know. Many of us don’t want a guessing game. Be very clear about your interests one way or the other. Also, do us a favor if you just want to be friends. Don’t agree to go somewhere or do something with us without saying that it’s strictly friendship and be clear that you are not interested in dating. We know you are interested in dating but with clear signals we will at least know you aren’t interested in dating us. With that said, we can chose to move on to someone who may have an interest and still remain friends without wonder of whether it would ever go anywhere.

  2. Zach says:

    Am glad this article covered something as vital as this. As much as they love to grumble about how many guys out there dont have balls, they should also adopt these amazing ideas and be accommodating to someone who has swallowed his ego for courage to break the ice and make a conversation!

  3. dave says:

    Claudette and Shelley – Great essay! (I guess I thought that a man had written it). Laying out your points without throwing insults at men may get you in trouble. Still bothered about the fact that you describe scenarios where the woman is really interested in the man but is “not permitted” to give him the advantage (?) of knowing.Just seems like a terrible double standard.

    • Dave, Thank you for your input. We do encourage women to give a green light by saying: “if you asked me out, I would say yes.” The flip side of this is what if he really doesn’t like her? There is a way to keep things from turning awkward if she doesn’t get the result she was going for by saying: “Hey, no big deal. I just wanted to know. Now I can go out and connect to someone that feels the same way. Don’t get awkward on me, we can stay friends.”

  4. Anna says:

    When I tried to check out to buy your program it brought me to a PayPal screen and never gave me the option to buy your product. It was incredibly frustrating and because of that you were not going to get a sale now.

    • Anna,
      We are so sorry that our PayPal check out did not work for you and that it was so frustrating for you. We relate and would be just as done as you! We are so sorry that this caused you frustration when you’re looking for answers!

      We did not know that we had a problem with any of the check out buttons until we received your note. We’ve done some quality control and it turns out two of the buttons on the page had a bad link from some site updates that happened recently. If you had not taken the time to come back and leave us a note, we would not have known for a while. We really appreciate you taking the time to inform us.

      You are important to us! We’re going to make this right and make sure you get a copy of the course for free. Please look for a private email from us.

      Thank you again for taking the time to let us know what happened and we’ll be in touch!
      Claudette & Shelley

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